June 2013 Winner - Gender Role Poem

The winning poem for the challenge on learning gender roles was written by Pamela Larson, a poet who won second place in the May challenge for fairy tale poems. Here is her poem:

Boys Will Be Boys

Alone in my room playing school with faceless students

Mother scolds me out the door into the sun.

I go to the garage and set up a shoe store

we sell sandals made from a leaf and a stick.

When business is slow I tinker with my bicycle

changing the parts around with a wrench.

When forced to be social I liked

quiet, curious, but impersonal boys.

You could count on them not to ask anything

so you never had to tell anything.

We would listen to an album

and I would never be asked

my favorite song

or color

or my favorite anything.

Boys read books without sharing deep thoughts

instead entertaining with quoted

character impersonations

and improvised plot twists.

Most everything was measured

on surface detail.

Years later I sit at a table

on Wednesday Board Game Night

me and three guys

ready to compete

for European victory points

and the Best Strategy Skills title.

I laugh when I find out

they’ve played together for three years

not one of them knowing

what the other does for a living.

I have not escaped being a girl.

~Pamela Larson

Pamela Larson has been published in The Daily Herald, Karitos Journal, CRAM/JOMP Poetry Series and on PoetrySuperhighway.com and DagdaPublishing.com. She has won awards from Highland Park Poetry and the Illinois State Poetry Society. You can find her artwork on the cover of A Midnight Snack published by Poetic License, Inc., as well as a cinepoem (youTube link) on the HighlandParkPoetry.org homepage. Pamela retains copyright on the poem published here.

Thank you to Sandy Stark for judging the poems this month. Watch for a new challenge coming on July 1.

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June 2013 Poetry Challenge - Learning Gender Roles

            I grew up in a home occupied by my grandparents, my mother (who was divorced) and my older sister. I never questioned the idea that grandfather would work outside the home while grandmother would do most of the cooking and cleaning. I think I figured out at an early age that Mother had to work in a store because she no longer had a husband to support her and her daughters. Two of my uncles had Masters’ degrees. Mother had to drop out of high school because she had severe headaches caused by an accident. I don’t think any of my many aunts had a college education, though at least one taught school for a while.

            All these aspects of my family story impacted my view of gender roles and my feelings about what I can and cannot do. But my views changed overtime. After my mother remarried, I learned from Dad that men can do the laundry and mop the floors. I learned from the culture of the community where I grew up and from my high school that women do go to college and can become professionals. That was one advantage of growing up in Iowa City, home of the University of Iowa.

            Was there a difference in activities and roles between males in females when you were a child? Sandy Stark wrote a poem about her mother crossing a gender barrier, and how it impacted her.

Learning to Fish

           

The men in my mother’s family fished;

the women served the food and drinks.

My mother got in the boat to change things,

so I grew up learning to fish:  how to read

the weather, water, and shore line,

to find the deepest holes in the lake,

how to bait and cut loose the hook,

to gut and clean for a pan fry.

Most girls I knew then didn’t do that.

They cooked the fish instead,

pretended to need help putting

their own two feet in a barely rocking boat,

thought fishing was something you did

for a compliment—or a date with a guy.

Now I fish for words to tell a mother

who wished I’d married the biggest fish

in the sea that she really did all right

getting me in this boat: 

I know how to watch things,

I know how to find them,

I can cut my losses when I have to,

and I don’t think a good fish story

is the same thing as a lie.

~ Sandy Stark

(From Counting on Birds by Sandy Stark (Fireweed Press, 2010)

Sandy Stark’s poems have appeared in the Wisconsin Poets’ Calendar, the Texas Poetry Calendar, the former Wisconsin Academy Review, and Verse Wisconsin. She is retired from teaching literature and business communication skills, most recently at UW-Madison. She lives in Madison.

June Challenge: A Poem about changing views of gender roles

For this month, write a poem about what and who influenced your view of gender roles, or how they changed over the years.

Your poem can be free verse or formal. If formal, please specify the form. Poems of 40 or fewer lines are preferred.

Please submit only one poem during any particular month.

The deadline is June 15. Poems submitted after the June 15 deadline will not be considered.

Copyright on poems is retained by their authors.

Due to formatting difficulties, I prefer that poems be left justified and not have indentations or spaces in the middle of lines.

Poems published in books or on the Internet (including Facebook and other on-line social networks) are not eligible. If your poem has been published in a periodical, you may submit it if you retain copyright, but please include publication data.

How to Submit Your Poem:

Send your poem to wildamorris[at]ameritech[dot]net (substitute the @ sign for “at” and a . for [dot]. Be sure provide your e-mail address. When you submit your poem, add a note indicating where you took poetic license with the facts of your life. The poem should be in first person, as if it actually happened to the speaker in the poem. Submission of a poem gives permission for the poem to be posted on the blog if it is a winner, so be sure that you put your name, exactly as you would like it to appear if you do win, at the end of the poem.


© 2013 Wilda Morris