Some
of us have been fortunate to grow up surrounded and encouraged by grandparents,
great-grandparents, aunts and uncles, even great-aunts and great-uncles,
members of those generations before us who had learned a lot of life lessons
and sometimes imparted their wisdom to us. I had the good fortune of growing up
with my grandparents (pictured above). They were the source of much wisdom and inspiration.
Aunts and uncles also contributed to my upbringing, and I learned important
ideas and values from Sunday School teachers.
For
many of us, members of an older generation added to whatever nurture and love
we received from our parents and thus enriched our lives. Unfortunately some people
learned negative lessons from members of previous generations. I heard a man
say he joined a violent gang and entered the drug trade because an uncle who
was a gang leader made it seem like the normal thing to do. He felt he had to
do those things to prove his own worth to his family.
Mary
Jo Balistreri wrote a beautiful poem about her relationship with
Great-Grandmother and some of what she learned from her.
A Letter to
Great-Gramma Belle
Your
life stretched like the South Dakota plains
as
you rode with your circuit preacher husband
through
a shifting horizon.
When
I knew you in your unpainted shack,
Grandpa
was dead. Four of your seven children
lay
beside him.
You
were old and blind. I was ten.
I
came to your house every day,
unraveled
the strands of your long life.
On
the threadbare rug in front of you,
I
wrote your stories down, asked questions,
saw
myself
as
a writer.
When
you tired you’d ask me to play the piano.
Untuned,
with missing keys, it sounded awful
to
my ear, but glorious to you.
Keep playing you’d say,
so
we struck a bargain: you’d continue to sift
through
the past, and I’d bring music.
Sometimes,
I’d come earlier to watch you
make
sugar cookies, wondered how you could
bake
without sight.
You
taught me to see with my hands. If
the
texture felt thin, it needed flour, too thick,
it
needed milk. When the dough was ready
to
shape you said to me
Close your eyes. Let the dough sing to you.
You
taught me how heat has different
smells
as it rises. I learned to sense when the oven
was
hot enough, when the cookies were done.
I
was afraid to take them from the oven but you
knew
your hot pads and trays, the magic
of
not getting burned.
~
Mary Jo Balistreri
From
Gathering the Harvest: Poems
(Bellowing Ark Press, 2012), page 7. Copyright Mary Jo Balistreri.
As
I read the poem, I can smell those cookies and hear the untuned piano. I sense
that Great-Gramma Belle was teaching the ten-year-old Mary Jo more than just
cookie-baking. Great-Gramma Belle’s advice to “Keep playing” the piano fell on
fertile soil: Mary Jo became a concert pianist. And there is great wisdom in
Great-Gramma Belle’s advice to a budding writer to “Let the dough sing to you.”
Perhaps this is part of the seed-ground of Mary Jo’s impulse to write poetry, a
craft which she took up while dealing with the loss of her grandson. “The magic / of not getting burned” seems to
me to be a strong metaphor that says more than it seems to say at first
reading.
The October
Poetry Challenge:
The
challenge for October is to write a poem about learning from someone of an older
generation. You may put your experience in a formal poem or in free verse. If
you submit a formal poem, specify the form you have used in your email. An
autobiographical poem is, perhaps, best in this case, but poetic license is
permitted.
Submit only one poem. The deadline is October 15. Poems submitted after the October 15
deadline will not be considered. There is no charge to enter, so there are no
monetary rewards; however winners are published on this blog. Please use
“family-friendly” language.
Copyright
on each poem is retained by the poet.
Poems
published in books or on the Internet (including Facebook and other on-line
social networks) are not eligible. If you poem has been published in a print periodical,
you may submit it if you retain copyright, but please include publication data.
How to Submit Your Poem:
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Submission of a poem gives permission for the poem to be posted
on the blog if it is a winner, so be sure that you put your name (exactly as
you would like it to appear if you do win) at
the end of the poem. Poems may be pasted into an email or sent as an
attachment. Please do not indent the poem or center it on the page. It helps if
you submit the poem in the format used on the blog (Title and poem left-justified;
title in bold (not all in capital letters); your name at the bottom of the
poem). Also, please do not use spaces instead of commas in the middle of lines.
I have no problem with poets using that technique; I sometimes do it myself.
However I have difficulty getting the blog to accept and maintain extra spaces.
Poems shorter than 30 lines are preferred. Also, if lines are
too long, they don’t fit in the blog format and have to be split, so you might
prefer to use shorter lines.